Thanksgiving was hosted by my younger brother this year, in North Carolina. He and his new girlfriend did a terrific job - pumpkin ice cream cocktails to start (similar to
these, which I can't wait to make), TWO whole birds (one deep fried and one brined and grilled), and lots of deliciousness appearing from all members of the family - collards, corn pudding, sweet potatoes, smashed potatoes, two kinds of stuffing and two kinds of pie. And a mess of grilled oysters to kick everything off. Painful amounts of food, and a great visit all around.
North Carolina is always pretty, but the cotton fields in the fall are snowy perfection:
And the cypress trees are as hauntingly lovely as ever:
It's a truly breathtakingly beautiful state. Maybe everyone feels that way (care to weigh in, Nebraska?), but I could drive those back roads or drift around on the sound all day.
It's become a sort of tradition for the whole family to take in a movie on Black Friday (our contribution to boosting the economy without too much excess), and this year we saw The Muppets. I was prepared for it to be hokey and maybe stretching for old jokes or perhaps aiming a little low; I was not prepared for the sweeping nostalgia, or for tearing up at the re-creation of the classic intro. The voices were a disappointment but eventually we stopped noticing them and overall it was good fun.
And even though after the Thanksgiving gorge-fest I was sure I wouldn't eat again, I did have some amazing chicken and dumplings, some of the best grits ever, excellent she-crab soup (though not as good as my brother's), delicious key lime pie, and gallons of sweet tea.
And then we flew home. I fly quite a bit, and have developed a pretty solid list of necessities that help make the whole thing more bearable:
- earplugs
- headphones
- down pillow
- cashmere blanket
- book
- snack
- phone (loaded with podcasts, games, additional books)
- external battery (don't forget the USB cord)
- once inside the terminal I pick up a big bottle of water so I'm not pestering the flight attendants for more than their standard scheduled drink runs and I'm also not getting dehydrated.
After flying home yesterday, I retained a tiny amount of sanity during the five hour flight by cataloguing some helpful tips for what I can only assume are newcomers to air travel. Please feel free to share them.
1) SMELLS. You know how lots of restaurants and professional offices request that you not wear strong perfumes because they affect other people? News flash: people are more closely confined in airplanes than in restaurants or professional offices. Please bathe, and brush your teeth, and stop there. Save your smelly, headache-inducing perfume for your own home or car or family. And food - I haven't worked in an office in a number of years, but remember without any fondness at all some coworkers who would heat up the most OBNOXIOUS smelling leftovers in the microwave of the office kitchen, permeating the entire place and leaving everyone feeling queasy. I like stinky food as much as the next person - tuna fish sandwiches, Indian curries, Cambodian fish paste - but please don't bring these things onto an airplane.
2) PERSONAL SPACE. When you heave yourself up out of your seat during the flight, and you use the headrest in front of you for leverage, you might be surprised to know that there is an actual living person in that seat who is thrown backwards (and often has his or her hair pulled) when you do this. Try using your armrest instead. Same thing when you return to your seat. Is it really necessary to grab that headrest and lean on it as you're dragging yourself into your designated place? No it is not.
3) SOUNDS. Tapping your feet incessantly is (surprise!) audible. And if I can hear your headphones from two seats away, you might be damaging your ears. And you're annoying. But at least you're using headphones. Hey, guy with the laptop (or iPad or cell phone) watching your movie or playing (I am not making this up) a Vegas-style slot machine game? GET HEADPHONES. No one else needs or wants to listen. (And no, I have never seen a woman do this. Yet.) I think playing cards are fine - lots of old-fashioned appeal and so many options, but I had a guy sitting behing me and every shuffle seriously involved at least twenty loud rifflings of the cards, with two or three aggressive TAP TAP tampings for each.
4) CHILDREN. It's hard to know where to begin here. If your kid makes a mess on the plane, the polite thing to do is clean up the mess. If your kid is kicking the seat in front of him/her, the polite thing to do is to force him (or her) to stop. If your kid is trying to be all independent and drag their own (super cute! often furry!) suitcase up the jetway, and it's constantly falling over and blocking the way for EVERY OTHER PASSENGER ON THE PLANE, many of whom have connections, it's not as cute as you think it is. I think a couple of nice options might be 1) carry the suitcase or the kid or both up the jetway and let the super-cuteness resume in the airport where there is room, or 2) wait until the other passengers have deplaned and then take as much time as you like. Oh and finally (this could belong in the sound category, I suppose) - two words... INSIDE VOICES. If your child insists on singing the alphabet song, please insist on inside voices. And if your child insists on singing the alphabet song twenty times in a row using nothing approaching an inside voice (again, not making this up), may I suggest duct tape? (I jest. But seriously.)
Flying brings out the misanthrope in me, mostly because there seems to be a steady decline in societal graces and a gigantic surge in personal entitlement. [Please note: I do understand that a) society has been claiming the demise of manners and civility for hundreds of years now and the world has not ended, and b) the best place to witness manners and civility is probably not on a Southwest Airlines flight a few days after Thanksgiving.]
On the bright side of society and manners and traditions - weddings! This is my most recent cake - nothing earth-shattering, but lovely white chocolate, fresh flowers mixed with sugar leaves and acorns - presented on a beautiful November afternoon. Ahh. I feel better already.